Why Mum & Bub Groups are so important
I just got back from a lunch organised by a local Facebook Mums Group. I’ve been a member of the group for a month or so and have commented on a few posts or thrown in my 2 cents worth on a parenting question, but until today I haven’t been able to make it along to an event.
This is the second time I’ve plucked up the courage to attend a new group playdate and once again I’m oh so glad that I did. Today’s lunch has reminded me of just how important these groups are, and why I recommend that every new mum attend.
Back in our Grandmothers day, there was the old saying “It takes a village to raise a child”. Actually I believe the saying originated well before our Grandmother’s time but nevertheless it is very true. In those times communities were close knit, family was often close by or even living under the same roof, and every body chipped in to help other families raise the kids whenever it was needed. Advice and old wives tales were free flowing and kids grew up surrounded with the influence of a variety of people, not just mum and dad.
Nowadays though this has changed. All too often families live on opposite sides of the country, sometimes even opposite sides of the world. We don’t know our neighbours, and with the increase of technology a cricket bat and a game of street cricket has been replaced with an ipad or an xbox.
Becoming a parent for the first time can be daunting and lonely. Grandma, Aunts, and our mums aren’t always on hand to help out with advice. We can’t always pop our head over the next door
It can be confusing and down right scary sometimes!
And sometimes all we need to hear is “Oh yeah, my little Johnny did that exact same thing when he was that age and this is what I did…”. Sometimes all we need to hear is we are normal.
Joining a mums group can be one of the best things you can do as a mum – whether it’s your first bub, or your fifth! These groups can be a wealth of information with new ideas and suggestions from mums who are just like you, and are going through (or been through) the same experiences that you are going through.
And don’t just join one! Who says you can’t join two, or even three? Facebook has the advantage of bringing the village a little closer to home and with the ability to meet people from all walks of life it can help you build your own little village. Networking isn’t just for business people! Get out there, meet new mums and talk about the nitty gritty of parenthood.
Have a vent about how you haven’t washed your hair all week and take comfort as those around you nod their heads in agreement. Ask the questions that you may not feel comfortable asking your husband. Watch other mums interact with their own kids and pick up some useful hints. It’s all about building up a social mummy network and surrounding yourself with people who can provide you with support.
Tagging along to a mummy meet-up has many benefits for the kids and their developing social skills, but the advantages for mum are so much more. Simply getting out of the house for an hour and talking with peers can do wonders for your wellbeing. Mums groups can help combat the feelings of loneliness and isolation that can come with being a full time mum, and having adult interaction (other than singing along with the Wiggles) can fight off depression and anxiety issues.
There are many Townsville based playgroups and mums groups that have Facebook pages/groups with regular events in different parts of the city. These can be found by doing a Facebook search using key words like “Townsville Mums” for example. Alternatively join our Townsville Women Facebook group here and post in there requesting info and we can help point you in the right direction.